As a therapist, I've had the privilege of witnessing the beautiful yet challenging journey of parenting. And if you're an adult child with your own kids, celebrating Mother's Day can take on a whole new meaning. It's a day when you might find yourself torn between meeting everyone's expectations and taking time for yourself. But here's the thing: you don't have to please everyone. Today, let's explore the importance of finding balance and embracing your unique journey as you navigate Mother's Day.
Your Journey: As an adult with your own children, it's crucial to remember that you have the autonomy to decide how you want to celebrate Mother's Day. Whether it's a grand celebration or a cozy day at home, give yourself permission to make choices that align with your values. Your well-being matters, and honoring your boundaries is a beautiful act of self-care.
Acknowledging and Celebrating Your Mothers: Mother's Day can also be an opportunity to express appreciation and gratitude to the mothers in your life. If you have the capacity, consider reaching out to your own mother or mother figures to show your love and gratitude. A simple phone call, heartfelt letter, or spending quality time together can be a meaningful way to celebrate them. Remember, though, that this acknowledgment can be done any time of the year, and it's okay if Mother's Day is not the ideal moment for you.
Prioritizing Self-Care: In the midst of parenting, it's easy to neglect your own needs. Mother's Day presents an excellent chance to remind yourself of the importance of self-care. Take some time for yourself and engage in activities that bring you joy and relaxation. It could be a solitary walk in nature, a bubble bath, reading a book, or simply indulging in your favorite hobby. Remember, nurturing yourself is not selfish—it replenishes your energy and makes you a better parent.
Setting Realistic Expectations: It's essential to recognize that Mother's Day doesn't have to be perfect. In fact, trying to meet everyone's expectations and please everyone can be exhausting and unfulfilling. Instead, set realistic expectations and communicate openly with your loved ones about how you'd like to celebrate. You can also ask them if they have something in mind that would be doable. By fostering understanding and mutual respect, you can create a more relaxed and enjoyable experience for everyone involved.
Creative Ideas for Mother's Day: While the traditional notion of Mother's Day often revolves around extravagant gifts or elaborate celebrations, it's important to remember that small gestures can hold immense meaning. Here are some simple yet heartfelt ideas to consider:
a) Plan a family picnic in the park or backyard, enjoying quality time together.
b) Have a movie night at home, complete with popcorn and cozy blankets.
c) Write a heartfelt letter expressing your love and appreciation for your children. It can become a cherished keepsake.
d) Create a memory jar together, where each family member writes down special moments or wishes for each other.
e) Prepare a special meal together, enjoying the process of cooking and bonding over delicious food.
f) Set aside time for a family game night, with everyone participating in their favorite games.
g) Wander around at the local flower shop or garden center together.
h) If you have multiple women you want to celebrate and honor on Mother's Day, consider a simple coffee out or a drop in without formal meal plans.
i) Go for a walk in the forest or on a trail together as a family.
As an adult child with your own kids, celebrating Mother's Day is an opportunity to honor your journey, acknowledge the mothers who have influenced your life, and prioritize self-care. Remember that you don't have to please everyone. Embrace your unique path and create Mother's Day traditions that align with your values. By finding balance and setting realistic expectations, you can enjoy this special day while nurturing your own well-being. And always remember that taking care of yourself is an essential part of being a parent. By prioritizing your well-being, you're setting a positive example for your children and creating a harmonious environment for your family. So, this Mother's Day, celebrate in a way that brings you joy and fulfillment. Embrace the beauty of your own journey as an adult child with kids, and know that it's okay to take time for yourself. Happy Mother's Day!
Written by Emily Popoff, MA, RCC,
Therapist & Owner of Kootenay Women's Counselling & Wellness